mbtb See, you have common sense, perspective, and probably had a lot more maturity than them. (I don't know how old you were then.)
In addition, from your description, I'm guessing (because it's unfortunately much too common) you mean your ex may have become (or had already been) violent. Some are unfairly forced to do that - give up everything they've ever had just to get away; at times leaving family and friends behind, just to get away. If my guess is correct, then you had an impetus SZ didn't have - remember she said in her interview that GZ was never violent with her. She had no reason to fear for her life from him, nor he from her, as far as we know.
Otherwise, if by your "life", you mean getting control of it and moving forward without him, then even more kudos to you for being able to see that without the additional fear for your life.
I think we've all known or heard of someone who just seemed to go totally off of the deep end in a divorce situation. I've read multiple cases where attorney fees ended up being greater than the total value of the marital estate. And that's where the parties hadn't been subject to a lynch mob including the media for 16+ months, and lost their way of life maybe forever
through no fault of their own.
I don't recall if any of those cases involved infidelity, but that is incredibly hurtful and crazy making alone. If some haven't known someone that happened to, I think most have at least seen it represented in movies.
I wouldn't wish what those two have been through on anyone. I'm glad they were able to keep things together during the investigation and trial. I think that was important for both of them. I'm so sorry they weren't able to keep things together afterward. This is also petty, and I know it, but I hate to give the Trayborg™ the satisfaction, kwim?
There is no way I'm suggesting they should have stayed together to spite the Trayborg™. That's not what I mean at all. I just am sorry they've both lost so much at the hands of a lynch mob reminiscent of the
French Revolution.
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