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2:34 p.m. ET: LaViolette further explains that victims suffering from hostage syndrome only see the situation through their abusers eyes. She calls this a "monopoly of perception."
2:32 p.m. ET: Willmott is asking LaViolette how some abuse victims can be trapped in a hostage syndrome, where they don't feel free to function in the world with other people.
2:28 p.m. ET: LaViolette is explaining the most severe type of domestic abuse. She calls this type abuse as "terrorism," and she describes it as stalking like behavior.
“When a relationship ends, most people – there usually is one person who isn’t ready to have an end. And that’s for any of us -- most of us have had relationships where they ended before we were ready to have them end… and you’re not quite ready to have an end so you might call that person just to hear their little voice on the answering machine. Or you might drive by their house or something to see if they’re there. You might show up somewhere where you think they are,” said LaViolette.
2:26 p.m. ET: LaViolette said as the abuse becomes more severe victims will become withdrawn and isolated. Every relationship is different, and it is difficult to predict how long this change can take to happen.
“[The victim] can be friendly, they can be more self-confident, they can be even gregarious, they can be the person that plans activities for friends. And then over time what happens is they become more withdrawn, they become less self-confident, they become more self-blaming, their self-esteem goes down. So you see a real change,” said LaViolette.