MzDazie wrote:
LOL.. The one of the two that calls me mom (the other is convinced I ruined her life, because my house had rules to follow, and she resented that) jokingly calls me his evil step mom. He says that looking at the people around his bio mom now, he knows he would be in jail if we hadn't raised him like we did.
I think that you are 100% correct and the reason it is so easy to focus on TMH is because so many people let their new partner mistreat, abuse, and kill their children.
Very well written, thanks. You said it much better than I did.
As you know, being a parent is often a very difficult and thankless job, that we never know if we're doing right, and is different with each child. That's true no matter who was present at the child's birth. As our kids get older though, as you've just posted, sometimes they have the grace and goodness to point out something we did right, like yours did.
Some of the highlights of my life have been our older ones pointing out specific things they intend to emulate with their own children - if I EVER get any grandchildren!
I admit I'm suspicious of TMH, but it's not because of being a step mom. I've seen way too many children saved by good step parents to automatically think negatively of them. In fact, I've seen
families saved by good step parents; both bio parents included. Somehow, they managed to be the peacemaker so the bio parents could communicate, put aside all of their old grievances and bitterness. They developed good co-parenting relationships, all for the good of the children. I've been at weddings where bio- and step- parents were all at one big, happy table, and all were recognized for their contributions to the raising of the happy couple.
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